After more than one long-term affair, Carpenter’s wife, Hope, voluntarily checked in to a one-year rehabilitation program over the weekend. Her psychological state is so fragile that doctors are beginning immediate treatment.
Charisma News previously reported on Carpenter’s initial announcement and his decision not to reconcile with his wife.
When Hope confessed her first affair in 2010, Carpenter wound up in the hospital. Doctors thought he was having a heart attack. The stress of keeping his wife’s infidelity and emotional instability a secret for nearly a decade took its toll on themegachurch pastor.
“I cannot tell you the horror of having something like plutonium inside of me, a secret in me," Carpenter told his church. "And I have to grab a microphone every Sunday and Wednesday and talk to the world, having lost all my confidence, humiliated, shamed and embarrassed.”
“There was no remorse. There was no compassion," he continued, describing his wife's behavior. "The erratic behavior, random, random, reckless, careless behavior only escalated, and the situation in 2011, 2012 just deteriorated worse and worse. I don’t know how I have come before you and done what I have done. The state of my mind and the preoccupation ... the volatility of my home. I don’t know how I’ve done what I’ve done.”
Carpenter had renewed hope in January when he said something started turning.
“Her motherhood started coming back," he said. "Her attitude toward me began to change. She began to have a desire again to be restored to ministry. I saw her devotional life pick back up. I saw her time with God begin to be productive and consistent. ... I thought, 'Maybe we have done it. Maybe we've beat this thing.'”
Despite renewed hope, Carpenter soon found out his wife had started another affair right after she broke off the first one. His wife was actually having an affair during the entire restoration process, and he never knew it.
Still, Carpenter is walking in the Word.
“Hope is not well," he told his congregation. "You need to know that. We don’t know what’s wrong. But these are not the actions of anybody that is right. I am bearing the expense of one year of treatment that is extensive, calling together the best Christian counselors and clinical psychiatrists and therapists that money can buy, and I am committed totally and completely to my kids one day having a mother that is whole and that is well.”
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Source: Redemption World Outreach
GREENVILLE, SC (FOX Carolina) -
Pastors Ron and Hope Carpenter have been fixtures
in the Upstate community for years since forming Redemption World
Outreach, one of the first mega-churches in this area.
On Sunday during his sermon, Carpenter said his wife is in isolation in a one-year treatment program in a situation he called tragic.
During the sermon, Carpenter said he and Hope had gone through 10 years of struggles. During the weekend, she checked in to a rehabilitation program out of state, where she will remain for an entire program.
The Carpenters have been married for 23 years. Carpenter said at first it was like a fairy tale.
"It was amazing; she was the absolute love of my life. It was the first time I've ever given my heart away - never intending to give it away again," Carpenter explained.
The fairy tale ended however on Easter Sunday 2004 when Carpenter said Hope changed.
"She totally removed herself from ministry, totally removed herself from women of Hope, she never spoke, she never preached," he said.
He said the behavior continued during the next six years. And in 2010, Carpenter said Hope admitted to having multiple affairs. It was at the same time Redemption World Outreach was putting together a marriage conference.
"The marriage conference was already half way sold out, and $25,000 worth of deposits were made for rooms and we couldn't back out. I had no idea what to do," said Carpenter.
The conference went on in 2011 but it was canceled in 2012. Carpenter said during this time he and Hope went to therapy.
But it was early last week when things hit rock bottom. Carpenter said Hope admitted to having even more affairs and said everything deteriorated from that point.
"In the state which I saw my wife leave I wouldn't want anyone anywhere to have access to her. It is that bad," said Carpenter.
Carpenter told WORD Radio Monday morning that the infidelity is only five percent of what's going on in Hope's life.
"There were two distinct double lives. This is not a fling. Not an affair. There was a whole other life and culture and dress code and friends," explained Carpenter.
A lot of people have asked why Carpenter decided to go public with all this Sunday during his sermon.
He responded by saying, "I have to tell my people because I know them. I do teach them faith, I do teach them to believe that there is a God that does miracles. But I could not mislead them because the behavior has become so detrimental to the family unit I ‘m having to turn my efforts to bring some stability at home."
Carpenter said he doesn't plan to reconcile with Hope and went on to say he has no plans in stepping down as Senior Pastor at Redemption World Outreach.
Redemption World Outreach pastor reveals personal troubles in sermon
Posted: Oct 15, 2013 9:43 PM EST Updated: Oct 16, 2013 8:35 AM EST
Source: Redemption World OutreachOn Sunday during his sermon, Carpenter said his wife is in isolation in a one-year treatment program in a situation he called tragic.
During the sermon, Carpenter said he and Hope had gone through 10 years of struggles. During the weekend, she checked in to a rehabilitation program out of state, where she will remain for an entire program.
The Carpenters have been married for 23 years. Carpenter said at first it was like a fairy tale.
"It was amazing; she was the absolute love of my life. It was the first time I've ever given my heart away - never intending to give it away again," Carpenter explained.
The fairy tale ended however on Easter Sunday 2004 when Carpenter said Hope changed.
"She totally removed herself from ministry, totally removed herself from women of Hope, she never spoke, she never preached," he said.
He said the behavior continued during the next six years. And in 2010, Carpenter said Hope admitted to having multiple affairs. It was at the same time Redemption World Outreach was putting together a marriage conference.
"The marriage conference was already half way sold out, and $25,000 worth of deposits were made for rooms and we couldn't back out. I had no idea what to do," said Carpenter.
The conference went on in 2011 but it was canceled in 2012. Carpenter said during this time he and Hope went to therapy.
But it was early last week when things hit rock bottom. Carpenter said Hope admitted to having even more affairs and said everything deteriorated from that point.
"In the state which I saw my wife leave I wouldn't want anyone anywhere to have access to her. It is that bad," said Carpenter.
Carpenter told WORD Radio Monday morning that the infidelity is only five percent of what's going on in Hope's life.
"There were two distinct double lives. This is not a fling. Not an affair. There was a whole other life and culture and dress code and friends," explained Carpenter.
A lot of people have asked why Carpenter decided to go public with all this Sunday during his sermon.
He responded by saying, "I have to tell my people because I know them. I do teach them faith, I do teach them to believe that there is a God that does miracles. But I could not mislead them because the behavior has become so detrimental to the family unit I ‘m having to turn my efforts to bring some stability at home."
Carpenter said he doesn't plan to reconcile with Hope and went on to say he has no plans in stepping down as Senior Pastor at Redemption World Outreach.
RON AND HOPE CARPENTER ARE FALSE
APOSTLES
SOME ONE SHOULD TELL PASTOR RON CARPENTER THAT JESUS CHRIST WHO IS THE SAME YESTERDAY TODAY AND FOREVER HEALS EVEN CHRISTIANS OF EVIL SPIRITS AND INFIRMITIES
Mark 16:9 Now when He rose early on the first day of the week, He appeared first to Mary Magdalene, out of whom He had cast seven demons.
Luke 8: 2 and certain women who had been healed of evil spirits and infirmities --- Mary called Magdalene, out of whom had come seven demons,
I DIDN'T THINK THAT REAL CHRISTIANS BELIEVE IN PSYCHIATRY OR PSYCHIATRISTS BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT BIBLICAL BUT IN JESUS THE HEALER AND DELIVERER?
FREUD WHO INVENTED PSYCHIATRY WAS A SEX MANIAC AND IN REALITY PSYCHIATRISTS HEAL AND DELIVER NO ONE?
ALL THESE SO CALLED CHRISTIANS ARE CRAZY AND WHAT IS THE ROOT PROBLEM
Jeremiah 2:13 " For My people have committed two evils: They have forsaken Me, the fountain of living waters, And hewn themselves cisterns --- broken cisterns that can hold no water.
PSYCHIATRISTS ARE BROKEN CISTERNS
Kathie D. Trombleyrieck-scull I am sorry, but Like the rest of the world I don't see this as news, and don't seem to think that such a private matter should be made public, this Pastor should have kept this to a trustworthy few for pray and council and Charisma News should not of reported on it!
Mark 16:9 Now when He rose early on the first day of the week, He appeared first to Mary Magdalene, out of whom He had cast seven demons.
Luke 8: 2 and certain women who had been healed of evil spirits and infirmities --- Mary called Magdalene, out of whom had come seven demons,
I DIDN'T THINK THAT REAL CHRISTIANS BELIEVE IN PSYCHIATRY OR PSYCHIATRISTS BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT BIBLICAL BUT IN JESUS THE HEALER AND DELIVERER?
FREUD WHO INVENTED PSYCHIATRY WAS A SEX MANIAC AND IN REALITY PSYCHIATRISTS HEAL AND DELIVER NO ONE?
ALL THESE SO CALLED CHRISTIANS ARE CRAZY AND WHAT IS THE ROOT PROBLEM
Jeremiah 2:13 " For My people have committed two evils: They have forsaken Me, the fountain of living waters, And hewn themselves cisterns --- broken cisterns that can hold no water.
PSYCHIATRISTS ARE BROKEN CISTERNS
Kathie D. Trombleyrieck-scull I am sorry, but Like the rest of the world I don't see this as news, and don't seem to think that such a private matter should be made public, this Pastor should have kept this to a trustworthy few for pray and council and Charisma News should not of reported on it!
Hi Bob & Walter:
This Ron Carpenter is even more sick than his wife. It’s no wonder that she has had a breakdown. For him to parade his wife’s health problems is a breach of confidentiality. He had no business parading his wife’s indiscretions in his attempt to make him look like a perfect Christian. His attempt to portray himself as some kind of a “perfect, non-sexual” person who dated his wife for 10 years has got to be most self-righteous attitude I have ever heard. To have the unmitigated gall to stand up and tell his congregation and visitors about his wife’s indiscretions sounds like the “unforgiving servant” (Matt. 18: 23 – 35). Why did he have to date her for 10 years. When I met my wife, we were married within one year. When Jesus brings us together with the person that He has chosen to be our spouse, then we go ahead. What was his problem that he waited 10 years? Pastor Ron Carpenter is the one who needs to seek Psychiatric treatment.
I have counselled too many of these self-described Pastors and christians who drive their wives to distraction by their neglect and pre-occupation of seeing themselves as being “perfect in the wrong sense of the word” like the elder brother in the “Parable of the Prodigal Son”(Lk. 15: 11 – 32) who complained to his father, “Lo these many years I have served you and I never disobeyed your command.” As Mark Twain once said about the Prodigal Son’s elder brother, can be said of Pastor Ron Carpenter” “He was perfect in the worst sense of that word!What he has been neglecting is that he, himself, has been committing adultery with the “bride of Christ” the Church of Jesus Christ, while neglecting his own wife and family. I do not justify adultery but when a person is married to somebody who is perfect in his own eyes, their spouse through neglect and personal put-downs turns herself/himself to find some kind of loving support that they are not receiving. Paul write something about “agape love” that Pastor Ron Carpenter needs to remember: “love does not keep a record of wrongs” (1 Cor. 13: 5). If a Christian person has forgiven his/her spouse, it means that we cannot even mention it. His defense of himself demonstrates that he is a self-centered Pharisee trying to clear himself of all responsibility. He is one of the worst kinds of pastors.
This has nothing to do with deliverance from demons. It has more to do with a self-centred pastor who thinks that he can excuse himself for his neglect of his wife. And, she is not eternally lost because this is not the sin of “blasphemy against the Holy Spirit” (Mk. 3: 29; Lk. 12: 10). If she repents, she will receive forgiveness and eternal life . But, her husband,Pastor Ron Carpenter also needs to repent for the hurt and bad performance as a husband and a pastor.
Can you send this on to Jennifer LeClaire. Thanks!
Yours in Jesus Christ, Gordon
This Ron Carpenter is even more sick than his wife. It’s no wonder that she has had a breakdown. For him to parade his wife’s health problems is a breach of confidentiality. He had no business parading his wife’s indiscretions in his attempt to make him look like a perfect Christian. His attempt to portray himself as some kind of a “perfect, non-sexual” person who dated his wife for 10 years has got to be most self-righteous attitude I have ever heard. To have the unmitigated gall to stand up and tell his congregation and visitors about his wife’s indiscretions sounds like the “unforgiving servant” (Matt. 18: 23 – 35). Why did he have to date her for 10 years. When I met my wife, we were married within one year. When Jesus brings us together with the person that He has chosen to be our spouse, then we go ahead. What was his problem that he waited 10 years? Pastor Ron Carpenter is the one who needs to seek Psychiatric treatment.
I have counselled too many of these self-described Pastors and christians who drive their wives to distraction by their neglect and pre-occupation of seeing themselves as being “perfect in the wrong sense of the word” like the elder brother in the “Parable of the Prodigal Son”(Lk. 15: 11 – 32) who complained to his father, “Lo these many years I have served you and I never disobeyed your command.” As Mark Twain once said about the Prodigal Son’s elder brother, can be said of Pastor Ron Carpenter” “He was perfect in the worst sense of that word!What he has been neglecting is that he, himself, has been committing adultery with the “bride of Christ” the Church of Jesus Christ, while neglecting his own wife and family. I do not justify adultery but when a person is married to somebody who is perfect in his own eyes, their spouse through neglect and personal put-downs turns herself/himself to find some kind of loving support that they are not receiving. Paul write something about “agape love” that Pastor Ron Carpenter needs to remember: “love does not keep a record of wrongs” (1 Cor. 13: 5). If a Christian person has forgiven his/her spouse, it means that we cannot even mention it. His defense of himself demonstrates that he is a self-centered Pharisee trying to clear himself of all responsibility. He is one of the worst kinds of pastors.
This has nothing to do with deliverance from demons. It has more to do with a self-centred pastor who thinks that he can excuse himself for his neglect of his wife. And, she is not eternally lost because this is not the sin of “blasphemy against the Holy Spirit” (Mk. 3: 29; Lk. 12: 10). If she repents, she will receive forgiveness and eternal life . But, her husband,Pastor Ron Carpenter also needs to repent for the hurt and bad performance as a husband and a pastor.
Can you send this on to Jennifer LeClaire. Thanks!
Yours in Jesus Christ, Gordon
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ReplyDeleteI agree with what is being said - a man who cannot manage his household; cannot and should not be a pastor over any church - this man needs to repent, prostrate himself before God, fast and pray for deliverance, healing, repentance and restoration. Mental health professionals cannot heal/restore anything with their clinical therapy methods - I know I have went down that road and it doesn't work!! To God be the glory!
ReplyDeleteAMEN AND AMEN
DeleteLotta self-righteous Pharisees on here casting their stones at the Carpenters.
ReplyDeleteYou're exactly the kind of people Jesus had a problem with.
Let he who has no sin cast the first stone.
The scripture is clear. He is to sit down and learn of God. He is disqualified as a minister over the flock of God. No condemnation here just going by the word. May he find another job and minister to the needs of his family. He lied for a multitude of years. That is so sad for the congregation who loved trusted and big time supported him. He ows it to them to humbly step down. Please.
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